Elegance In Women ... ( & 4 Tips For How You can Become Elegant Too!)
If you find yourself on a level-up journey, surely you have heard the word ‘elegance’. It tends to be a word that gets scattered around by others who are trying to become their most feminine and refined selves.
But what does ‘elegance’ actually mean?
According to Oxford Languages, Elegance means;
1.The quality of being graceful and stylish in appearance or manner.
"a slender woman with grace and elegance"
2. The quality of being pleasingly ingenious and simple; neatness.
"the simplicity and elegance of the solution"
For myself personally, my take on Elegance is more so, a state of being. One can look elegant, but then the minute they open their mouth all of that elegance goes out the window.
Equally, someone could perhaps not be the most elegantly dressed, yet the way that they speak and carry themselves will have you thinking that they are a princess in disguise.
On my own level-up journey, there was a particular event that I had attended that was in the hills of Montecito, at a stunning mansion and I was dressed to perfection. However, one too many glasses of bubbles on an empty stomach were the beginning of my demise.
The backless, stunning champagne-coloured dress, my hair up in the most elegant french twist… and yet my behaviour did not match the appearance. This is a memory that still haunts me 11 years later.
However, this is one of the core memories that I have that is that catalyst for my wanting to refine myself to be the most elegant & refined woman possible.
You see there will be things that you hear that you shouldn’t do if you are wanting to be your most elegant self. And you will certainly hear what elegance is & isn’t.
And sometimes, I find it is easier to start what something isn’t as it allows us to learn and embrace the concept.
You may hear things like Elegant women never curse. Elegant women never have one night lovers. Elegant women never overshare.
… But what are the most practical ways that one could enhance their elegance? And could this to be answers to all of their plain jane problems?
One of the things that I know for sure is, Elegance isn’t a state of perfection, but rather ways that we can enhance our life and live it to the fullest. Could elegance be the answer to most of your life problems?
“Elegance is not being noticed, it’s about being remembered.”
“Elegance is the only beauty that never fades.”
“Elegance is when the inside is as beautiful as the outside..”
Audrey Hepburn, Giorgio Armani. & Coco Chanel, are all quoted to champion the concept of living elegantly. So, I thought it would only be wise to discuss some ways with you as to how to practically practice elegance in your day-to-day life.
1. ELEGANT WOMEN KNOW THEMSELVES.
I start with this point first, as I feel like the minute that you know yourself, this allows you to eliminate all other clutter, all other things that don’t serve you, and walk determinedly in the direction of your dreams ( whether that be elegant or not ).
The minute that I was able to figure out who I was as a person, and what values meant most to me. Was the minute that I was able to start pinpointing the areas in my life that I needed to refine, polish, and level up.
Practicing a method of awareness will be your biggest asset when you are wanting to elevate your elegance.
Search out ways that you can get to know yourself better. Start journaling. Try new things, and enroll in a workshop. I am a firm believer that you never know more about what you do want until you have seen what you don’t want.
If you are struggling to find out who you are, sometimes you gain the most clarity by taking the first step.
2. ELEGANT WOMEN ARE PREPARED.
Once you have figured out who you are, what means most to you, and why. You then should be able to start preparing for the life that you want to live. Picture this… A young woman’s alarm goes off, she presses the snooze button 3 times, which has now made her late for work.
As she has limited time, and she didn't set her outfit out the day before, she is now having to make a decision… Should she spend the limited time she has left to get ready picking out an elegant outfit, or should she spend this time on her personal grooming?
She decides to take the time putting a smart outfit on, but she truly looks like she has rolled out of bed, although her clothes are steamed.
She grabs a croissant as she is heading out the door, and then takes a big bite out of it and she is briskly walking down the street to her tube station. The croissant was truly decadent, buttery and flaky… which has now landed all down her beautifully pressed clothes, and is leaving a flaky cast on her outfit.
Through her rushing this morning, she completely forgot to take notice of the weather, and believe it or not, it is a sunny day in London, and her long-sleeved dress for the office is stunning, but unfortunately, way too warm for the occasion.
So not only does she look like she has rolled out of bed, but she is now dripping with sweat after she emerges from the tube, covered in crumbs from her decadent, buttery, and flaky croissant.
…do you get the picture?
Could this situation be handled a lot more elegantly if there was just a little bit of preparation that went into this lovely lady’s morning?
3. ELEGANT WOMEN DON’T OVERSHARE
We live in a day and age of social media. Don’t think that this is lost on me as I write this on a personal blog. I think this is why perhaps you should take this point with a little bit more weight. See the thing is, after working as a content creator full-time for the last 5 years of my life. I have seen the good, the bad, and the ugly when it comes to oversharing.
And unfortunately, I regret to say at times I personally contributed to this problem as an overall whole. But have noticed that elegant women often have an air of mystery about them. They do not react emotionally. And it is rare to see their tongue get the best of them.
We are humans, living a human experience. But what I have noticed is, that the issue isn’t with one having the emotion, but rather how they act upon their emotions. Good or bad.
This is where we are starting to see a rise in oversharing on social media, which also tends to come part and parcel of wasting time on social media. Elegant women know where their time is best spent, and know what is worthy of their emotions.
Become hyperaware of the time that you are spending on social media & put the appropriate safeguards in place so you do not use social media as your place to overshare. Take a word from me, your future self will thank you for it.
4. ELEGANT WOMEN DRESS & STYLE THEMSELVES IN A TIMELESS & CLASSIC MANNE
The last point that we will touch on today is personal grooming. In a world filled with trends, Elegant women understand the power of adopting a timeless and elegant brand. Furthermore, Elegant women understand even if they are not a person in the public eye, they will still have a personal brand.
Elegant women understand that even though we live in a world where people say ‘we shouldn’t judge others’, they understand that it is only human nature to judge what we see. And they eliminate the emotion from that statement.
We are constantly judging things based on the way that they look, and therefore the way that we dress and adorn ourselves is going to be no different. By adopting a timeless and classic wardrobe, an elegant woman will never look out of place. She understands that adopting a classic personal image will command more respect from her fellow females, and equally it will command the respect of the gentleman that she surrounds herself with.
Furthermore, she understands that harsh makeup with unnatural hair colours will detract away from her natural beauty, rather than enhance it. She wants to come across as sophisticated, elegant, and trustworthy, so she sticks with looks that will enhance her look and not mask the way that she looks.
Overall this relays to others that she is a woman with the utmost self-confidence, as she is not falling victim to trends, and does not obsess over what everyone else is doing. She elegantly walks to the beat of her own drum.
She knows that it may be a path that she walks with few other people, and she is okay with that. As she understands that she won’t be able to change others… But she can be ready to embrace those that are ready to join her.
Could an Elegant life be the way forward for you?
In my opinion. My life gets better as I live it more tastefully.
I would adore hearing from you.
1. Do you wish your life had more elegance?
2. This week, what one step will you take to live more elegantly?
Let's have a discussion about it below.
Best wishes,
N x
